Maybe 45 minutes from there is a little reservoir based vacation area called ‘Kentucky dam village’ that was the location of a family reunion trip that is legendarily hellish in my family from 20 something years ago. Also the moment when my immediate family more or less cut off all contact with another part of the family.

Oh no, sounds like I should avoid this reddit you speak of. Any suggestions for alternatives?

It appears that you are looking to get all of the benefits of community, while absolving yourself of any of the responsibilities. You want to use someone else’s i stance, without having to follow any of their rules. You want to have your own little safe space to spew whatever it is that obviously goes against community guidelines, but also for that space to be able to interact freely with the community. We don’t want to interact with you on that level, that’s why we are all here, following those rules.

If you really want a place where you can say whatever shitty thing you think everyone eeds to hear, then go make your own instance.

Which will be de-federated from all of these instances.